“When you develop too many co-dependencies, you lose boundaries. Having boundaries is both better for you and the people you interact with. See, people don’t want to walk all over you, but if you create a dynamic that allows for it, most people can’t help themselves. It’s human nature.” Ayodeji Awosika wrote this recently and… Continue reading Do You Struggle with Being a Doormat? If Yes, THIS is for You…
“Yaadein mithai ke dabbe ki tarah hoti hain. Ek bar khuli toh kewal ek tukda nahi kha paoge.” It’s been a year since I sat with anxiety, developing a cold feet over the impending trip I had with a bunch of grown-up strangers to a far-off land. A month’s preparation gave way to anxiety and… Continue reading A Year Later…..Opening the Yaadon Ka Meetha Box
When was the last time I sat down to write something for myself? Months ago, probably. Writing is my job and in the past few days, I have typed scores of imaginable, unimaginable words on my laptop and in desktops across the many workplaces I work. This kind of a whore-like career seems so unfathomable… Continue reading Lonesome
First published here. Even educated professional women could be quite ignorant about the basic facts of sex and how to take precautions before, during and after sex. Sex education is the answer. I remember how my colleagues reacted with utter disbelief when I told them the story of a 14-year-old I saw on a TV… Continue reading How informed are we about Sex and Contraception? Not much!
First published here. “And in that moment of complete submission, I was free, liberated.” I had heard or read this line countless times, always wondering what it really meant! How can one ever attain liberation in submissiveness, in giving in? I had been a submissive person and it landed me in problems. Submissiveness leads to… Continue reading My Liberation from my Past: One Moment of Pure Submission to the Present
First published on Women's Web. Communication is a two-way street. It does not depend on gender or race or even class. Different settings require you to communicate in different ways. And non-verbal communication has always been a part of communicational strategy; all of us have been taught that in schools. I’m surprised to see that… Continue reading Aziz Ansari and the Art of Respectful Communication in Relationships
Just a few hours before 2018 enters and my mother heaves a sigh of relief, telling me, “This year, everything good will happen to you!” Last year, on January 1, we had to abruptly cancel our New Year plans when I fell sick. And none of the plans worked in 2017. I am not gonna… Continue reading Year End Analysis of an Over-thinker
Because it can cost you your soul First published here. It’s been two years since that night in Kolkata where I couldn’t sleep because of the incessant crying. The pain was too much to bear and I couldn’t even scream. I wasn’t in my home, I was in a guest house and I bore the… Continue reading Why you Should Never Put anyone on a Pedestal ?
“Sometimes in life, you will be shocked to your core by the actions of people close to you. Your patience will begin to waver. But, it is at that particular moment that you will need to keep your patience intact.”
“There is nothing like the power of unrequited love. Unlike other forms of love, it is not shared. It’s mine and mine alone!” Cheesy dialogue it is. However, the other day while I was watching this epic scene from the movie “Ae Dil Hai Mushkil” where Shah Rukh Khan poignantly depicts the pain of… Continue reading I Got My Childhood Friend Back, for a Few Moments